Set boundaries and find peace

As I am beginning to type this up, I am coming up with so many different titles that I would like to be up there instead. Such as: “Being the CEO of your own life”, or “The power to forge your destiny”. Or “Taking back control of your life”. You get the idea. It’s all about knowing when to say yes and no. We grow up in a world where dealing with people is inevitable, whether at work or during your personal time buying groceries. Even if you’ve chosen a path of least (dealing with people) resistances, at some point while making a decision, you will factor in someone else’s actions and decisions to yours. We cannot control who we will run into. We cannot control the decisions that others will make. And neither can we control whether these decisions are going to have an impact on us. It takes conscious will for others to make a decision. That means they have said yes to themselves prior to acting it out; what we say no to, is setting boundaries. Saying yes to what is unwanted is losing control. Same logic applies to decisions that involves others. We can influence the outcome of other’s decisions, in which also takes conscious effort, so that it becomes more in favor of your desires. You do you.

Experience does for the soul what education does for the mind.

Casey Neistat

Knowing your worth

What we can control however, is our own decisions. In my other post, “You are what you consistently do“, I have mentioned that you are what you do and say yes to. What is life if we don’t live and learn? A friend once introduced me to this lovely quote, “Experience does for the soul what education does for the mind.” People may have access to the same education. Nobody else has experienced what you have experienced. Nobody else can live your life. Only you know whether you like yourself or not! Yourself = your consistent decisions for all you do! It is never too late to make a change in yourself, even if the sum of all past decisions outnumbers your next. What matters more is having conscious will to make the next decision, knowing your worth, and the determination to be who you want to be using the power of “no”. Every day, we make many decisions, so many yeses and nos, some insignificant, maybe, some matters to you more. Every decision is you. Take control! Own it. Knowing you is the very essence of control. And not knowing you is losing control.